I didn't really get much from the trailers that made me feel as if I needed to rush out to see "Revolutionary Road" upon it's theatrical release. I did attempt to see the free screening, but the line was soooooooo long by the time I got to the theater, my friend and I left for other entertainment.
Well, I watched it last night and was actually very surprised. For me it was so intense and thought provoking that I was glad I decided to put it on my rental list. I'm also now wishing I had someone to discuss it with who has seen the film.
Even though the story took place during an earlier time period, it still spoke to what happens for many today. Getting stuck and not knowing what your "true calling" is or having a clue as to how to figure it out. Working the 9 to 5 that you hate but you know you also like having a place to live, a car to drive, and your utilities operating. Or else the woman who married that guy who would take care of her for the rest of life, but realized that it's just not enough and there's a longing to be leading a different life.
It all rests on whether or not you can face the fear to just get out. Leap and pray that you land in one peace. How do you begin? What door do you choose?
Good movie!
Friday, June 12, 2009
Thursday, June 11, 2009
See yourself as changing all the time. Encourage change in others. When you hear yourself uttering a fixed opinion, stop. - Deepak Chopra
Had to repeat that one from Deepak Chopra's twitter just now. Everything about it I like.
1) See yourself as changing all the time.
Many, in ignorance, see change as a threat. I think we've all heard someone say at some point how they were not going to change or how someone was trying to change them and they were just keeping it real and being them.
I see change as a positive because my constant goal is to learn and grow. As we learn and apply that knowlege, it creates growth in some form and that growth is change. Wisdom does not come to us without change. Things around us are constantly changing and if we're just standing still, i believe that would mean that life is passing us by.
If you're not changing, then you are not being all you can be or living your life to the fullest. In that sense, you really aren't being the "real" you without change.
2) Encourage change in others.
If we are just nodding our heads in agreement and amening our way throughout our relationships with others, we aren't doing ourselves or others any good. We need others & others need us. Interaction with others can give us the valuable knowledge and experience that is needed to encourage growth and wisdom. By encouraging others, our own lives become a bit better as well.
We do however, need to remember to encourage them out of love and in a loving way.
3) When you hear yourself uttering a fixed opinion, stop.
Wow. We are all guilty of at least thinking a fixed opinion and oftentimes many of us take it further by letting it come out of our mouths. Every person has a story unique unto themselves and everyone has something to offer us.
We also can just talk too much. The more talking we're doing, the less productive and positive thinking we're doing. Before saying it, we should at least ask ourselves if it's necessary and if us saying it will produce a positive change.
Had to repeat that one from Deepak Chopra's twitter just now. Everything about it I like.
1) See yourself as changing all the time.
Many, in ignorance, see change as a threat. I think we've all heard someone say at some point how they were not going to change or how someone was trying to change them and they were just keeping it real and being them.
I see change as a positive because my constant goal is to learn and grow. As we learn and apply that knowlege, it creates growth in some form and that growth is change. Wisdom does not come to us without change. Things around us are constantly changing and if we're just standing still, i believe that would mean that life is passing us by.
If you're not changing, then you are not being all you can be or living your life to the fullest. In that sense, you really aren't being the "real" you without change.
2) Encourage change in others.
If we are just nodding our heads in agreement and amening our way throughout our relationships with others, we aren't doing ourselves or others any good. We need others & others need us. Interaction with others can give us the valuable knowledge and experience that is needed to encourage growth and wisdom. By encouraging others, our own lives become a bit better as well.
We do however, need to remember to encourage them out of love and in a loving way.
3) When you hear yourself uttering a fixed opinion, stop.
Wow. We are all guilty of at least thinking a fixed opinion and oftentimes many of us take it further by letting it come out of our mouths. Every person has a story unique unto themselves and everyone has something to offer us.
We also can just talk too much. The more talking we're doing, the less productive and positive thinking we're doing. Before saying it, we should at least ask ourselves if it's necessary and if us saying it will produce a positive change.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
What Am I Looking For..........
in a man? That was yesterday's question. It would be so nice if and when the day comes that a man asks that question and my answer can simply be "you". Unfortunately, it was not the case on yesterday and so I had to think of not only what I wanted, but how to verbalize it so that the message was received clearly.
First and foremost, I've decided that I need, crave, desire, want dependability. I need to know that I can count on my partner to be there when I need him. I need to know that if he tells me he'll be some place at a specific time, he'll be at that place at that time. I need to know that I don't have to think of who to turn to in a time of need, because he's there. I want to know that he's truly a friend, confidant, lover, partner and mate 100% of the time. Not just when it's convenient or works out that way.
I want a strong and stable man. This man has emotions and his strength allows him to express himself. He will have the courage to face fears head on and the strength to protect me.
Honesty & trustworthy go right along with dependable. The ability to verbally as well as physically communicate is a must as well.
A man who is passionate about life and has a drive to learn & grow. Our specific passions don't have to be the same, but hopefully there will be an openness to sharing.
If he were handsome and 5'10" or taller, that would be the icing on the cake......
First and foremost, I've decided that I need, crave, desire, want dependability. I need to know that I can count on my partner to be there when I need him. I need to know that if he tells me he'll be some place at a specific time, he'll be at that place at that time. I need to know that I don't have to think of who to turn to in a time of need, because he's there. I want to know that he's truly a friend, confidant, lover, partner and mate 100% of the time. Not just when it's convenient or works out that way.
I want a strong and stable man. This man has emotions and his strength allows him to express himself. He will have the courage to face fears head on and the strength to protect me.
Honesty & trustworthy go right along with dependable. The ability to verbally as well as physically communicate is a must as well.
A man who is passionate about life and has a drive to learn & grow. Our specific passions don't have to be the same, but hopefully there will be an openness to sharing.
If he were handsome and 5'10" or taller, that would be the icing on the cake......
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
The African
I had a date a lil over a week ago with a guy who I'll call "The African". Originally from Zaire but came here for school and found his way to the Big D afterwards. There were several red flags for me right off.
I hadn't heard from him the day before what would be our date and decided to call him. He said that he had been in the hospital from food poisoning. A friend showed up with some fish that you can only get in his region of Africa and so there was a dinner party to celebrate. My first thought was that the trip was a bit long for me to have wanted to eat it. He said that it was dried and so I could understand a bit more. The next thing he said was that the hostess mentioned it was a bit spoiled but she had "fixed" it. Well, the entire dinner party ended up in the hospital. As if that wasn't enough, then he tells me how sometimes people spray the fish with bug killer to keep the flies away.
Not yet over that, I still picked up the phone again when he called. That night I was going out to a jazz club about 40 miles away and he invited himself. I said okay and went on my way. He didn't show up but after some great conversation with a guy I met there and a few martinis, I hit the road before it got too late. Twenty mins into the drive home, I get a call. He had actually driven the 40+ miles but when he couldn't find the club, went to a gas station to find a map. At this point, he realized he had a flat tire. After he changed the tire, he realized that he had gotten dirty and went home with the intention of changing and coming back.
As if that wasn't enough, I still accepted his invitation to dinner the next night. He wasn't really talking when we first met and it was bad enough that I suggested we perhaps just go home. He was upset and pouting because he left home without his cell phone. He got over it and was eager to order the one thing he always got at this restaurant. He didn't have to look at the menu because he always got this one item. Our food comes and after eating half of his fries, he realizes that he can't eat his meal because it has pork in it and he stopped eating pork 2 years ago.
I'm over it but we talk. As long as we were in agreement on whatever subject it was, all was well and he was laughing and cheerful. Any time I disagreed with him about something, he got quiet and the subject was changed. By the end of everything he wasn't speaking at all and when I asked about it, I learned that by me disagreeing with him, I was being confrontational.
I think I went out with a 5 year old trapped in a man's body.
I hadn't heard from him the day before what would be our date and decided to call him. He said that he had been in the hospital from food poisoning. A friend showed up with some fish that you can only get in his region of Africa and so there was a dinner party to celebrate. My first thought was that the trip was a bit long for me to have wanted to eat it. He said that it was dried and so I could understand a bit more. The next thing he said was that the hostess mentioned it was a bit spoiled but she had "fixed" it. Well, the entire dinner party ended up in the hospital. As if that wasn't enough, then he tells me how sometimes people spray the fish with bug killer to keep the flies away.
Not yet over that, I still picked up the phone again when he called. That night I was going out to a jazz club about 40 miles away and he invited himself. I said okay and went on my way. He didn't show up but after some great conversation with a guy I met there and a few martinis, I hit the road before it got too late. Twenty mins into the drive home, I get a call. He had actually driven the 40+ miles but when he couldn't find the club, went to a gas station to find a map. At this point, he realized he had a flat tire. After he changed the tire, he realized that he had gotten dirty and went home with the intention of changing and coming back.
As if that wasn't enough, I still accepted his invitation to dinner the next night. He wasn't really talking when we first met and it was bad enough that I suggested we perhaps just go home. He was upset and pouting because he left home without his cell phone. He got over it and was eager to order the one thing he always got at this restaurant. He didn't have to look at the menu because he always got this one item. Our food comes and after eating half of his fries, he realizes that he can't eat his meal because it has pork in it and he stopped eating pork 2 years ago.
I'm over it but we talk. As long as we were in agreement on whatever subject it was, all was well and he was laughing and cheerful. Any time I disagreed with him about something, he got quiet and the subject was changed. By the end of everything he wasn't speaking at all and when I asked about it, I learned that by me disagreeing with him, I was being confrontational.
I think I went out with a 5 year old trapped in a man's body.
The Hangover
I went to a screening of "The Hangover" tonight and was glad I did. I thought I might get a few laughs and my friend Tamra said she could use a few as well. The great part about the screenings is that if the movie sucks, at least I didn't pay $10 to see it. I actually think I would have been okay paying to see this one. Very very funny.
I've had a few nights in my younger years where I didn't remember all that happened or where all I'd been, but nothing compares to the night these guys had. Loved every minute of watching them try to put it all together.
The laugh I needed.
I've had a few nights in my younger years where I didn't remember all that happened or where all I'd been, but nothing compares to the night these guys had. Loved every minute of watching them try to put it all together.
The laugh I needed.
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