Online vs In Person

As I've gotten older, I just don't have the desire to go out to the bars or club as often as I once did. I'm also a people watcher & most of the folks out here to not be that interesting to watch and surely not that interesting to talk with. There have been several times when I leave thinking that I just wasted money to be bored.

The down side of this is that I don't meet a lot of dating prospects. I do get out but at most of the events I attend, most people are already there with dates and I'm never going to date any of the people I work with through my community service. No one of interest at church either.

So that leaves the world of online dating. I'm still not very good at it or that comfortable with it but have tried a few times. A big part of the problem for me is the number of responses that come after posting an ad. It's easy to just delete the one who appear to have not read my ad all the way through & those who just don't follow the directions given, but there are usually still a few that seem of interest as well in the bunch.

Do I make dates with all of them? Would the men be insulted if I tell them that it might be a week or so before we could meet? How do I word it? Do I say that I'm going to give someone else a chance first, but if we don't hit it off, I'll get back to them?

For the most part, I get overwhelmed with it, delete the ad and try to distract myself with other projects.

Just Go Ahead and Smile

I stopped by the store on my way in to work this morning and one of the men commented on what a big smile I had so early in the morning. My immediate response was "why not?" Things haven't necessarily been going my way lately and I haven't been getting what I think I want, but the smile is still there and it's very sincere.

For me, this is just more proof of that inner joy that can't be removed. Through it all, I am still able to look at how many blessings I do have and just a few minutes of current events prove that it can be much worse. I woke up at home this morning & not on the street. I made a breakfast shake for nourishment and energy & am not sitting here hungry. My car started and got me to work safely & I wasn't standing in the cold, wet weather waiting for a ride. Finally, I made it to work as opposed to being at home sending out my resume for the millionth time and making appointments to see yet another recruiter.

The sun's not shining outside right now, but it is in my heart and soul.

Monday

I'm listening to the newest Prince album "Lotusflower" and so far I like. He's truly one of my favorites, was on my list of Three Famous People I'd Like to Meet, and he's definitely on my Dream Jam list. Actually, he's the only one on that list. I would love to one day just have at least an hour to sit and play music with the man. As for the cd, I've come to realize that I may never hear a new song that I love as much as some of the older ones, but I'm so far liking this one because I do feel as if I'm listening to something new, something familiar, something creative, and something more than the usual. As prejudiced as I am in Prince's favor, I do admit that there is at least one cd of his that I listened to once or twice and now can't even tell you 1 song that's there.

It's a good Monday. It's not warm & sunny like yesterday, but hey, at least I've got Prince.

Forever Learning

I like Sundays and today was a very nice one. The weather was warm and sunny and I had a date with with a couple of family members.

I learned something about myself. We went to Chef Kent Rathburn's newest restaurant here in Dallas. About 5 mins after being seated, I spot the man himself. I got so excited. It was funny. I'm such a fan. I asked the waitress if it was him just to be sure and she said "No. Chef Rathburn is not in the restaurant today." Well, I figured she was just clueless and when the manager walked past, I asked him. Of course if was Kent Rathburn.

I then asked for an autographed menu and I actually got to shake the man's hand. Now, I have never been a groupie and figured it was because of the fact that I'm a musician, have several friends who are artists, have been around celebrities, and consider them just people like myself. Today I found out just how excited I get by a man who cooks REALLY well.

A man in the kitchen is just plain ole hot!

Dating and Communication

I'm fine going out alone and I have fun with myself but I find no shame in saying that I'd love to be stepping out with my man tonight. That would be if I had a man. Hence the subject of this blog. I try to be as honest as possible right off in who I am and what I'm looking for. I understand that everyone is not going to be attracted to me and that every man was not meant to be with me. I usually think that by getting a much as I can upfront, this would save time.

Not the case & so now I'm thinking that it's just mis-communication. Are men really hearing anything women are saying in the beginning or are they just wondering how long it would take for them to get sex?

No Reason for Boredom

I'm sitting at work counting down the hour. It's been a slow day and I've been bored. There's never a need for boredom though because there's always something we could be doing/working on/creating/making happen.

Sometimes we just don't want to and would rather be bored.